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Introduction

Typically, self-esteem is not something that you are taught. It is something you observe by watching parents, older siblings, grandparents and teachers and acquire from success in the tasks that you undertake. Unfortunately, not all of your students have positive role models from which they can develop this trait. Other “life skills” that may be under-developed include decision making, conflict resolution and goal setting. These are termed life skills because they are abilities that are needed for a life of success, and that is what we want for our children. The purpose of the following activities is to promote self-esteem and goal setting.

Background

Research has shown that low self-esteem is positively correlated with teen pregnancy and other risky behaviors like alcohol and drug abuse. Studies have shown that a child with high self-esteem and definitive goals is much less likely to participate in high risk activities such as, young first intercourse, drugs and alcohol abuse, violent activities, and unprotected intercourse. All of these have the potential to cut short any plans for the adolescent’s future.

Goal Setting Discussion-5 minutes

  1. What is a goal? Ask students to respond.
  2. Define the term “goal:” A goal is something desirable that a person works to achieve. Most long-term goals require self-discipline and years of hard work. A person with clearly defined goals and high expectations is less likely to participate in risky behaviors that may interfere with their life goals.
  3. Explain to students that it may take several small steps to accomplish a goal. It may not happen overnight.
  4. Discuss the difference between short-term and long-term goals.

    A short-term goal is something that can happen over a relatively short period of time. It can be the final goal or it can be a step to a larger goal. Ask students for examples. Answers may be getting an A on the chemistry test, completing all their college applications or getting an 8-minute mile in track.

    A long-term goal is something that you want to achieve that may take a lot of time to accomplish. Sometimes establishing short-tem goals can help you achieve long-term goals. Ask students to share some of their long-term goals. Examples may be graduating from high school, getting into college or becoming a pediatrician.

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  5. Setting realistic short-term goals helps you have more confidence. If your goal is to not bite your nails today, then at the end of the day you feel as though you have accomplished something you set out to do. A series of short-term goals can help you to achieve a long-term goal which at one time may have seemed crazy.